Sunday, December 14, 2008
Excuse Me Sir, Sex?
You know I am full of epiphanies. Always coming to some realization about myself. Or rather, I know things about myself but I usually just skim over those but...tonight…I have had another… epiphinous review of my sexual character.I am not all that good at sex…the act of sex…performance wise that is. Sex skills are not high in the A’s but maybe in the C’s…top C+, middle C, or bottom C-…I am not sure. But I do know that my love making ain’t no A.
See I have always been exceedingly sensual. I never really thought that of myself per se…but when you are told something enough times by people…er, men…then you tend to think as the status quo and not balk at others observations.
But,
I kind of cultivated that. Gave and pampered more than I actually felt…at the beginning…and usually if I knew that I was making an investment into my…umm, er…circumstance. Over indulged in making his body feel good…dreamy…lovely. It was a conscious effort so…it wasn’t truly sensual…but actually work…
Today as I was watching Madness (read: porn) during the football game and drinking Killian’s Red beer…I realized that all those moves and all that energy…I don’t do, don’t have. I am not going to say I just lay there and take the dick like a melting popsicle in my mouth…but I can say that I am not that far off. As much Madness as I watch…you’d think I would have picked something up. Well, I have but V. Del Rio is known for putting a “popsicle” in her mouth…and not for taking the “popsicle” in… or maybe she was but all that I have seen are her…awesome head sucking skills. That I learned…although…(5 months without and I may have forgotten. You know my memory sucks...also)
So although I know how to get a man…and even know how to keep a man… I lack in the sex area. I don’t fuck as much as I should, I don’t fuck as much as I’d like, and I don’t fuck as well as some would think. And because I don’t get involved as much as I portray to the men I get involved with…I end up getting bored and then…I leave.
I know…I have baggage. And not the carry-on type but the type that needs a cart and a bellboy.
Most have argued that I just haven’t found the man that is just for me…the one that I will want for mine and who I want to give everything to. Some say that it is not my time…and he will come along. But for now…
I just epiphonize on the fact that I’m a C when it comes to sex…and realize that my time is running out…so I need to start studying…
Too bad I am not in NYC…I’d be less afraid of contracting something….D/M/V has a horrible track record for casual sex…
I may have to get a man just to learn how to conjugate…or better yet, fuck.
Huh, odd that.
# posted by Blah Blah Blah : 10:45 PM
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I can see the hands going up saying "I'll be glad to teach you a few moves."
In my experiences, I always felt it was my job to bring the freak out in my woman, so I would say most women are as good as the men they have had. Some women have had more experience than others, so they bring a broader skill set to the table. Nevertheless, if you are willing, all you need is the right man to bring it out of you.
Now who that would be, I guess, is yet to be seen.
Don't be so hard on yourself. Good head and a willing partner would get you high marks in my book.
I think you just haven't found the guy that does it for you.
In my experiences, I always felt it was my job to bring the freak out in my woman, so I would say most women are as good as the men they have had. Some women have had more experience than others, so they bring a broader skill set to the table. Nevertheless, if you are willing, all you need is the right man to bring it out of you.
Now who that would be, I guess, is yet to be seen.
Don't be so hard on yourself. Good head and a willing partner would get you high marks in my book.
I think you just haven't found the guy that does it for you.
i've never thought to rate myself in the bedroom...humm that's an interesting thought. I don't think I could grade myself fairly I'm a bit biased on the subject:-)
Lol, and this is why I LOVE your blog. Glad that you're writing again, it can get a bit tiresome at times.
Honestly, practice makes perfect. I'm an A, and I know this b/c I've made them cry...so it's safe to say that my sex skills are on lock.
But nothing comes easy, practice my dear girl...it all comes with practice.
Honestly, practice makes perfect. I'm an A, and I know this b/c I've made them cry...so it's safe to say that my sex skills are on lock.
But nothing comes easy, practice my dear girl...it all comes with practice.
# posted by 
: December 15, 2008 at 2:23 PM
: December 15, 2008 at 2:23 PM
Well, I’m very Old School when it comes to sex. I think the emotional is as important and the physical. So I suppose I’d say it’s not what you do or even how well you do it...it’s how you make someone feel while you’re doing it.
But that’s just me. I suppose I’m just a prude in the end.
But that’s just me. I suppose I’m just a prude in the end.
The right man will bring it out of you Blah..(An I know I aint been around in awhile..you haven't been to visit me either..but I haven't forgotten you.) Sex aint something you have to study..it's something you do that can be very enjoyable..Just let your imagination flow that's all.
i'm with you on that front. it's easy to play the role but how many men out there have inspired the real deal and not the reel deal? have you ever been truly emotionally available during sex? i haven't, which i know is what has contributed to the sense of distance i feel during the act.
hopefully you'll find the missing link. and when you do, let me know.
hopefully you'll find the missing link. and when you do, let me know.
Are you soliciting advice on how to raise your grade?
If so, I'd start by cutting out the porn. Unless of course, that's how you want your partner to think of you, like a porn start.
Then, I'd just go into the next interlude with the main objective to get mine. Start there.
If so, I'd start by cutting out the porn. Unless of course, that's how you want your partner to think of you, like a porn start.
Then, I'd just go into the next interlude with the main objective to get mine. Start there.
At the risk of missing the point... BWAHAHAHAHAHA! You are a mess and The Truth at the same time. I think it is equal parts about you and him. But unfortunately, I do think that the feeling comes only with someone who you are truly feeling and in tuned with on every level; otherwise it's just like a job, and not the fun kind. Lol
Err, I've got nothing to say. Sex isn't easy, especially if you are with someone who is ok but not really sweeping you off your feet. Maybe one day you'll see that. And maybe one day I'll hear you screaming all the way from DC and I'll know that you know.
Curious: Umm, so your saying you haven;t heard me from DC....'cuase I swears...I've been mighty loud...I know my neighbors hear me...lol
La: I believe it's in who you have chemistry with.
Realhustla: I actually get mine...then go to sleep. Problem with that is that I can orgasm 3 times before he gets his one...so...by that time I've rolled over and gone to sleep.
Nikki: Did you ask me if I am emotionally available? Sex or otherwise? you've been reading me long enough to answer that yourself. But I am talking sex...not love and all that shit...lol
Keith: I haven't been reading anyone...sorry. I think I visit more people when I post than at any other time.
As for imagination...you read me...my imagination is not the problem in the least. Matter of fact,...well never mind. Thanks.
RiverCityROmance: That's a helluva long name...lol Practice is my problem. I don't have sex alot. Ok, clarification...it takes a loooong minute to have sex....but when I do, I try and sex as much as possible. Then I get tired of sex partner and it's all blah...
Terry: You are such a romantic and so loveable.
AJ: I am quite sure you have a good reason to be biased.
Rich: damn you for being married...lol But if I can be get high marks in one man's books....I am sure I can be in someone else's as well.
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La: I believe it's in who you have chemistry with.
Realhustla: I actually get mine...then go to sleep. Problem with that is that I can orgasm 3 times before he gets his one...so...by that time I've rolled over and gone to sleep.
Nikki: Did you ask me if I am emotionally available? Sex or otherwise? you've been reading me long enough to answer that yourself. But I am talking sex...not love and all that shit...lol
Keith: I haven't been reading anyone...sorry. I think I visit more people when I post than at any other time.
As for imagination...you read me...my imagination is not the problem in the least. Matter of fact,...well never mind. Thanks.
RiverCityROmance: That's a helluva long name...lol Practice is my problem. I don't have sex alot. Ok, clarification...it takes a loooong minute to have sex....but when I do, I try and sex as much as possible. Then I get tired of sex partner and it's all blah...
Terry: You are such a romantic and so loveable.
AJ: I am quite sure you have a good reason to be biased.
Rich: damn you for being married...lol But if I can be get high marks in one man's books....I am sure I can be in someone else's as well.
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